Friday, December 28, 2007

From the day the child is born till the day he or she can think and make decisions on her own, the mother should be the one to raise the child. Not the father. The duty of a father is to provide maintanance for both the child and the wife.

There are those among us who act before they think, and end up having to face problems bigger than they can ever imagine. Who will look after our baby? I have to go to work. You have to go to work. Where can i possibly find enough money to feed the family? I dont even have enough to feed the child! Diapers, milk, baby food, clothes. What about friends? Clubbing? Late nights? Shopping? Im only 20. It would be a hassle for me to bring the baby around everywhere i go! If only i hadnt done this! If only i hadnt done that!

Regret sinks in. Conflicts. Arguments. You and i cant get along. No more chemistry. We were never made for each other. Let's go our own way.

And they forget the cute baby sleeping soundly in the bedroom, oblivious to what's going on around her.

They were blinded by love. He was handsome. She was preety. Thought they were matchmade in heaven only to realise it wasnt suppose to be made so soon. They thought taking the next step would seal the love they have for each other -- only to realise that it would be better if they had waited a few years more. Their parents had told them to focus on their studies first before thinking about having a relationship yet they choose not to listen, thinking that their parents' way of thinking is only relevant in the stone age. But when all else fail, the first person that comes to mind to help them look after the child is none other than their own mothers.

Trying to find the root of the problem. Whose fault is it? The parents for not raising their child well? The friends their child hangs out with? The media for potraying only the beautiful side of love? If not, what else?

If only social workers are paid well. I would love to pursue a degree in social work. If it doesnt happen in a month's time, an engineer i would be in the hopes of earning more so that i could then save enough to start thinking of starting a family.

I always tell mama that by then, it'll be too late to even start. But i guess better late than start early.... and having have to end it early too. I wonder what lies ahead for me...

PS: Wish i could go on a holiday and sit by the beach and just take my mind of work.

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